two types of people
There are two types of people in the world: one, who will find tao through relationship. He will need somebody else as a mirror, and the relationship will function as a mirror -- what the Jungians call the extrovert. And then there is another type who will find his mirror in himself; he has no need for any relationship. Not that he has to avoid relationship, not that he has to escape from relationship, but there is no necessity for relationship. He can close his eyes and find himself. He is what jungians call the introvert.
If you are the second type, you can simply close your eyes and be in yourself; there is no need for anywhere to go. Just dropping inside your own being you will come to know all that is needed to know.
I'm not saying avoid relationship -- I am never against relationship -- but relationship will not be the door to self-realisation for you. Or we can say in other words: there is one type who moves through love -- love needs the other -- and the other type moves through meditation. Meditation doesn't need the other... if you are the meditative type.
Once you know it, things become very much easier. Otherwise much energy is wasted in doing this and that... moving from this path to that path. Once you certainly know that this is how you are, then things start happening and everything falls in line.
